The worst part of a bad relation can be the final decision to breakup. Not only is it hard at times but also very painful for both parties. However, sometimes it is unavoidable and actually for the best, if only you can do it without freaking out your partner or giving birth to an ever lasting grudge. Here are 5 rules you must keep in mind before you decide to call it off.
Don’t just leave a message
Don’t be surprised if you partner makes a big deal of your breakup text, email or voice message. Even if you have been together for a few months, your partner deserves to hear it from the horse’s mouth. You can’t just leave a message for something as significant as a break up. Not only does it show cowardice on your part but ends the relationship very bitterly.
Be truthful and honest
Even if you have fallen for someone else, your partner deserves to know the truth. Try not to lie or come up with stories because if your significant other finds out the truth later, which is not very unlikely, you will lose your own respect and ruin the good times you two had together. Be honest about the reason behind your decision and tell him/her the truth.
Don’t blame the other for everything
While you might be justified to make such a harsh decision, it is not prudent or practical to lay the blame solely on the other party. Take responsibility for your own actions, which might have caused your partner to react in a certain way. Show maturity and own up to your own mistakes as well instead of blaming your partner for it all.
Make your intentions clear
There is nothing worse than giving false hope to your partner. If you are going to be breaking up, make everything clear. Don’t fall into the ‘lets be friends’ trap and tell him/her that it won’t be wise for you two to continue seeing each other in any capacity. It will be very hard for either of you to move on if you don’t do this.
Give a proper closure
Don’t leave things hanging and uncertain in the end. Take out time properly for this and make sure you answer any questions your partner might have. Be ready for any reactions and handle them maturely, without resorting to emotional decisions yourself. Reassure him/her by highlighting positive qualities and only leave after you feel all that could have and should have been said has been said.